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Have you ever felt incredibly stuck in where you are currently living your life and feel as if you can’t take that next step forward because of thoughts you have that hold you back? The thoughts we have matter. They are powerful and real and can absolutely impact the moments we live in each and every day. Therefore, in order to live with more happiness and experience more freedom, it is so important to learn how to change your mindset. Today, I am sharing with you 5 things that are holding you back AND giving you the exact thing to about it, so you can finally find freedom in learning how to change your mindset. And experience the things you truly want to experience in life!
I love the concept of growing. The evolution of ever-changing who you are as a person, the further development of our strengths, the refining of our weaknesses, all to reach the potential of who we really, truly want to be.
It can be easy to feel stuck and easy to feel uncertain. Uncertain about our direction, our calling, knowing if where we currently are is the actual season we are supposed to be. Yet, despite those feelings of doubt, I strongly believe in learning through the hard, and finding a steady even within those moments of feeling, “I don’t know what I am doing.” Fully believing that it is possible to change your thoughts and change your mindset, to live a better and happier life!
Maybe you find yourself a little like me? Feeling as if your heart is being pulled in so many different directions and you are trying to tread carefully with both intention and purpose. Not wanting to take the wrong step or go the wrong way.
If you have been feeling a little blah in your life, well then this word is for you. Bringing this word to truly encourage your heart and to remind you that you are capable of growing more like the person you have always dreamed of becoming. So you can know that it is possible to change your mindset. By identifying the FIVE things that are holding you back and knowing what to do about them, you can reach more happiness in your life. Yes, it is possible!
The very first thought that is holding you back from changing your mindset and changing your life is believing that nobody cares. This is a lie that can so easily slip into our mindsets and make us feel so alone, and so unworthy. Whenever I am living through the hard seasons, the seasons that just test me and challenge me.
The moments where I feel more overwhelmed, and uncertain, and anxious, those are also the moments when I feel the most alone and as if nobody cares. When this mindset happens, when we feel as if nobody cares, the most important thing to do in that moment is recognize it as a complete lie.
In order to change your mindset here, recognize that that is the voice of the overwhelm talking. That is the voice of the stress and the anxiety. Recognize that that is simply not true. That people truly do care. I can easily have this tendency. And when I am in these moments, I too am also incredibly isolating myself. When instead, sometimes I just need to let more people in. I need to be a little more honest when asked, hey, how are you doing?
When we believe that nobody cares it is really easy to feel worthless and real easy to lose our sense of purpose, and with that our motivation to move forward and to get things done. Instead, know that that belief is a lie, that people do care. That you are incredibly cared for and loved. And don’t be afraid to reach out to a friend or loved one when you are feeling that way, and let someone else in!
The second thought that is holding you back from changing your mindset and changing your life is trying to be perfect. It just won’t work. There is too much room for growth that can never happen and will never happen if we let the need for perfection win. Trying to be perfect truly is a restrictive mindset, as it absolutely stunts in movement forward.
If I take a look within my own life, whether it is in organizing a room in my house, or planning a lesson for school, or working on a blog post, the times where I am the most unproductive are also the exact same times where I am so focused on trying to be perfect. Therefore, in order to move forward, we must let go of the need for perfection.
Instead of trying to be perfect. Shift your mindset to thinking that, done is better than perfect. I will have accomplished way more by getting this task done, instead of perfect. Focus instead on showing up and serving the best you can in that moment, and letting everything else fall aside.
Understand there is so much freedom that can come from letting this need for perfection go. And as you let the need for perfection go, give yourself all the grace as you love yourself as that version of you, because that version of you, the version of you that can move forward despite things being perfect, that person is doing an incredible heck of a job!
It can be so easy to stay stagnant and not jump towards a potential goal, or idea because of fear. Therefore, the third thought holding you back, that you need to let go of in order to change your mindset is fear in the unknown. Fear of taking that chance. Of making a move. Yet, the one thing I am so incredibly certain of is I don’t want to live my life in fear.
In fact, I want to live my life with tenacious faith. A faith that can believe in the things that are not yet seen. A faith that can believe in the wonder, a faith to believe in the miracles. To have a faith that can believe in the me of the future. The person who I have not yet become, but will in fact be.
Instead of letting fear win and letting fear hold you in the unknown, change your mindset, and have faith. And faith isn’t anything without action. It is having the belief and taking an action towards that belief.
Now, I cannot talk about having faith over fear without sharing one of the verses of the Bible that has incredible meaning to my life. 2 Timothy 1:7 – For I have not been given a spirit of fear, but a spirit of power, love and a sound mind. Faith is the opposite of fear. In fact, faith is a spirit that holds power, represents love, and a sound mind. Faith is truth.
Therefore, in order to change your mindset, instead of living with fear of the unknown, cling in faith to what you know to be true. And affirm those truths and take action in it. Cling to faith and let the steps you take be rooted in that very faith.
The fourth thought that is holding you back, making you believe you cannot move forward is comparing yourself to others and others journeys. In order to truly change your mindset and live your best life, comparison must go. There is so much joy to be found and to be lived in, when comparison can flee. And it actually is possible.
In order to change your mindset and finally find freedom from comparison, turn off the blinders and turn away the distractions. Get incredibly focused on what it is that YOU are doing. Focus on who you are serving and how you can show up in that role more as your real and authentic self.
If we focus too much on comparing ourself to others and our own journey to the journey of others, we lose sight and lose the value of what actually makes us unique and what makes us shine. There is value in your story. There is a purpose in your journey. And when your focus is solely on comparing your value and your story to the value and story of others, you will fall incredibly short, every single time.
The final thought you need to let go of in order to experience growth and finally be able to change your mindset is to let go of believing you are not good enough, nor worth good and great things! This thought can be so restrictive and so binding. It can prevent us of moving forward and making the change because it tells us we are not good enough. But friend, that is such a lie!
Change your thoughts here. I am enough. I am more than enough. Know that you are worth good and great things. Affirm these things over and over again until you can get there. Tell someone that you are feeling this way. Say it aloud so this binding thought can flee from your spirit and your mind and replace it with the truths – I am good enough. I am worth good and great things.
It is possible to change your mindset so that you can actually live your best life! It is as simple as identifying the FIVE thoughts that are holding you back and focus on overcoming them.
Believing you are capable of this growth and mindset shift and so much more! You can change your thoughts and those thoughts can change your life, so that each and every day can actually be your best day! Have an amazing week friend, cheering you on and supporting you every single step of the way!