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Summer is here and what I am about to share with you is going to completely change everything! If you are ready to live a life you can feel confident in, fully walking in the best version of YOU then this is for you! Giving you the tactics you need to unlock your summer mindset. So that you can step fully into your potential and live your best life throughout the months of summer.
There are so many things to love and appreciate about summer. Summer is different. The days are longer. Whereas, each day can seem more like an eternity. However, the weeks and months go by in a blink of an eye. I know for teachers, especially, this couldn’t be more true. Over here, there are eight weeks summer break. While we are a little more than half way through our summer, I know in a short blink of an eye, summer break will be over. And another school year will be ready to begin. While, this is the last thing you want to hear. It definitely puts things into perspective.
For so many of us, summer brings change. Change in schedule, change in routine. A complete change from our total norm. For us, we have spent the past 15 days working on moving up my son’s bedtime. My son and I have been full on summer mode here. It definitely has been more of a goal to work through a more consistent routine and schedule because that is how we thrive. And that is exactly what I want, to be able to thrive, despite all things that may stand in our way!
Whether the change that summer brings is more welcomed, or met with greater anxiety and stress as you have to adapt and adjust and figure out even more throughout the day. The key to truly unlocking our best life this summer is all in our mindset.
Today, I am going to give you the SECRET to unlocking the mindset you need for summer. So that you can find more happiness, feel more joy, and walk in more confidence every single day. So whether you are in full mom mode this summer, or trying to adjust to working while kids are out of school. This is for you! Get ready to feel empowered to live a life you can feel good about right now!
Now, before I share with you the specific steps to embrace a mindset for summer, there’s actually one thing that we have to do first. And it’s an extremely important step, so don’t skip this step. First, we need to define what summer looks like and feels like to us. Therefore, we have to establish a goal for summer.
The best way to do this is to self-reflect and assess. Think to yourself, what is it that you need right now? What are you hoping for during this specific season of the year? What is the one thing that if I knew I could have in this instant, things would be significantly better?
Visualize your happiest self. Additionally, visualize a you that feels confident and sure of who she is and what she is doing? How did you get there? What steps did you take? Why do you feel that way? For example, when I think of the happy me of summer, I think of a Haley who is at peace and fully present each moment she is in. I think of a Haley that shows up as her best self during playtime with my son. Which basically is majority of the hours of the day when he is not sleeping.
I am not worried about tasks that I need to get done, instead I have a routine that I can count on. I feel confident and strong because I have been devoted and dedicated to taking the necessary time to work out and do the things that my body needs. And I feel freedom, even when days or our summer schedule completely falls apart.
Take time today, this week and visualize your happiest self this summer. Who is she? What is she doing? How is she showing up throughout the day?
Now that you have her. Now that you have established who she is, that version of you that you would love to see. I want you to believe that it is fully possible to not just meet her, but be her this summer. And we are going to do just that, in just FIVE steps to embrace the summer mindset so that we can live this season of life to the fullest.
The very first step to embrace a summer mindset is to focus on consistency. Specifically, consistency in a routine and consistency in a schedule. We thrive in consistency, but consistency doesn’t have to mean busy. It doesn’t have to mean overwhelmed. Nor does it have to mean overflowing your schedule to where there’s no room to breathe.
However, when we have consistency and a routine, we can expect the same things to happen at a same time period. We know when we can rest. We know when we have a moment to collect ourself. Additionally, we know when we have a moment to feel connected.
It’s so important to have an idea of what your week will look like. Even though things are going to change, it’s so important to have a consistent routine and a consistent schedule to model the ebb and flow of life and routines and how things get done within your daily schedule, within your home, within your family.
Just as important consistency is, so is flexibility. Now, you may be wondering how these two actually fit together, but they both are so essential to your summer mindset. Be consistent, but be flexible. Stick to a routine, but know you might have to move things around and it’s okay when you do. However, by being consistent, it ensures that what you need to get done will get done.
What are things that you know I need to be consistent in? For me this summer, I want to be consistent in working out, spending time outside and going for a walk. I also want to be consistent in doing a small load of laundry every other day to make sure I stay in control of my laundry room.
Consistency is important, but so is flexibility. For example, earlier this week, I sat down and established a timetable for my week. I wrote down the moments I was going to work out, the tasks I wanted to complete during my son’s nap time. Additionally, I made a list of the basic household tasks I wanted to complete and when that would occur.
I also wrote down a couple ideas of time that my son and I were going to play and spend intentional time together. As I wrote these things down, I considered our routines. The routines in the morning, the evening. Through writing all of this down, I established consistency.
However, I also have flexibility. I have the ability to move things around. If I look at my planner from the previous week, did everything get done? No. Did we do all the things we said we were gonna do? No. However, did things feel accomplished? Yes. Did I feel connected? Yes. Did I feel overwhelmed? No!
Consistency in a routine and consistency in a schedule is super important, especially when you are trying to become that best self. So think through the you that you envisioned earlier on. Who she is and what steps are going to get you there. Find little ways to be consistent in those steps. Support that by establishing a routine and allowing that to be in your schedule, but also having the flexibility for when things get hard. Therefore, the first step to unlocking your best mindset for summer, be consistent!
The second essential step to unlocking your summer mindset is to let go of the expectation. This is so important for having a solid mindset, and in order to have the summer mindset, you really need to be able to embrace living in your everyday life. You have to get rid of the expectation. This is twofold. The first expectation you have to get rid of is the expectation that you are placing on summer. The expectation you are giving summer, the idea of summer, the season of summer, the time within summer. Let go of what you think summer should feel like, of what you think summer should look like. Most importantly, let go of what you think should be accomplished in summer.
Now, I’m speaking to myself right now because I, knowing I’m home for summer break, came up with this ridiculous list of all these things I need to do. Mainly for the blog, mainly for the podcast, also home projects. However, the reality is, there simply is not enough time to get those things done. But, I create this crazy expectation of, oh, this is what has to be done, and I set myself up for failure in the process!
Instead, let go of the expectation that you’re placing on summer and find freedom in that. And the same way you let go of the expectation for summer, also let go of the expectation you are placing on yourself. The expectation you are placing on the person you think you should be and have endless grace for yourself when you are stuck in a hard moment and when you’re feeling big things.
Furthermore, allow yourself to work through those emotions so you can grow! Therefore, the second step in having a summer mindset is to let go of that expectation NOW! How do you let it go? Well, I’m a big believer in writing things down. I’m a big believer in letting things in your head live on paper and no longer in your mind. So if you have expectations that you want to get rid of, write them down on a sheet of paper. Then throw that sheet of paper away. Get rid of it, let it be gone. In order to unlock your summer mindset, let go of the expectations!
Number three, the third essential step to embracing your summer mindset is to redefine what fun looks like. Specifically, redefine what fun looks like for you and for your family. Think through the things that you enjoy doing and embrace them head on. Focus on redefining what fun looks like for you now. The most important part here is to give yourself the permission to change the way you look at things.
This is so key for your summer mindset. Change the way you look at things and allow yourself to think differently. Find the beauty in the small moments. Find the extraordinary in the simple things. Actually slow life down. Don’t plan or jam pack all the things into a day.
It’s okay to have moments of quiet. It’s also okay to have moments of stillness. Find excitement in the simple things. Have a picnic in your front yard, make a fort in the family room and have a movie night. Go for a walk in your pajamas, turn the sprinkler on and run through the grass. We carry such big expectations because we feel like fun can only look a certain way.
Then we limit our beliefs about how we are as a person or how we are as a mom because we aren’t doing this or that, or so and so on. Instagram has done this. Social media has caused this. Instead, redefine what fun looks like and feel freedom in showing up simply in that moment. That is the key to unlocking your best mindset this summer!
The fourth way to unlock your summer mindset is to recreate the concept of adventure. Take time to find adventure outside. Spend as much time as you can, even if it’s a super small crack of your day. Seriously, spend as much time as you can outdoors. Find a new park to walk through ,somewhere new you can explore. There can be so many lists of things to do during summer break. The 50 things you need to do here, how to enjoy your summer with kids, how to spend your time and make the most of it now.
Truthfully, I will give you my own version of that. I have my very own summer intentional to-do list, to encourage you with a list of things do during summer! But all of these things just put pressure on our hearts. They overflow our calendars and create so much stress and extra mess that is not necessary.
It also can make us feel inadequate and take away the value of our worth. We start to evaluate our role as a human, our role as a mother, based on how many summer things we do. So seriously recreate the concept of adventure, get rid of the expectation, and find abundant freedom this summer.
Finally, the fifth step to your summer mindset is to build room to breathe. Give yourself more room to breathe. Give yourself more room to think clearly. Furthermore, give yourself more room to see things differently. Give yourself more room to grow in the person that you are working on becoming. Plan little mini breaks, little mini reset moments throughout your day. This will allow you to live more slowly, even in a crazy, jammed packed summer.
By building in moments to breathe, this will allow you to reflect and reassess. To take a moment to think, okay, how are things going? How am I feeling? What’s causing me to get frustrated? Why am I getting upset? What can I do to fix this situation? What can I do to just step away for a moment and come back with a different set of eyes? Find little tiny windows of time to sit, to be still, to reflect and be thankful, to feel grounded and calm and collected.
Do this within your day and make it a part of the whole family’s day. Know that by doing this and building little rooms to breathe, you are unlocking everything you need for your summer mindset, to live as the best possible version of yourself. A version of you that can be happy, a version of you that can feel confident. And a version of you that can be okay, even when you’re having a hard day.
By building moments to breathe in your day will allow you to find the grace to continue to move forward and be proud of who you are, even on your best moments and even through your worst. The goal here is to be fully you this summer. To be able to unlock the potential for your happiest self because how you are showing up in each moment. Through embracing your summer mindset, this allows you to keep your cool in the stressful, to quickly bounce back from the hard moments, to stay calm in the chaos and find joy in the messy.
It is absolutely possible for you to fully be the person you desire to be. This summer, I believe in that so strongly for you. I know you’re gonna do it, and I’m gonna be here cheering you on every single step of the way. Just as you visualized her and I visualized the me, we are going to fully be those people and we can do this through
So excited for you to feel this freedom to embrace this summer mindset. And to unlock so much more for you and everyone around you through the summer months. Cheering you on and believing BIG things for you, every single day!